Love – Page 16

LIFE AFTER THE I-DO’s

June 2, 2014 by Little Miss Honey 884 Comments

Me and my hubby celebrated our 1st year wedding anniversary a few weeks ago. It seems like yesterday that we exchanged our vows. A close friend of mine told me if I can blog about our life after the I-do’s. After all the glitz, glamour and fun of a meticulously-planned wedding celebration, reality starts.

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They say 1 year of married life may still be in the honeymoon stage but it also a time of great adjustment between two persons. You have to consider that marriage consist of two people coming from a totally different household with different way of upbringing. The possibility of conflict and differences are inevitable.

After our honeymoon, me and my hubby have to continue our long-distance relationship for a few months before he could join me in Singapore. We both have handled the long-distance thing quite well so it wasn’t a big problem for us. Thanks to the technology nowadays! We love you whats-app!

After the LDR phase was over and hubby sacrificed his stable job in the Philippines to be with me in Singapore, the real newlywed life began. Thank God our newly wed experience is a far cry from all of the MTV’s NewlyWed Show of Jessica Simpson and Nick Lachey. Surprisingly, our 1 year as a married couple was not as dramatic or a big drastic adjustment for both of us. And mind you, we have never lived-in before our wedding. Of course, we have occasional arguments like any normal couple. But I have to say, we never have a fight more that 24 hours or we usually fixed it before we go to bed or at least we patch things up in the morning. But I have to attribute that though to my hubby. He always tries to mend things between us if we have misunderstandings. He believes that we have to talk about our conflicts, come up with solution (s) and always end with a kiss & a hug. If it was up to me , we could be in a silent war for weeks, hehe. It also helps that we hate too much drama. We are not attracted on that over-the-top teleserye couple fights. We try to keep our fights short and clean.

Of course, all marriages are different. But what is important is that both of us believe and want this sacred union to work. On the get go, J & I vowed in front of our families and friends that no matter what, No Letting Go!

Though we might have it a bit easier in our 1 year together, we know we still have a long way to go and many struggles & obstacles will come our way. But here are some things I’ve learned in my 1 year as a married woman:

1. MARRIAGE IS WORK

Yes, marriage is not easy. It is work and you need to work on it. If you think those couple with impressive longevity in their married life just sit back and let successful marriage life happens, think again. Married life is not for the fickle-minded or the faint of heart. You have to enter into it with the right mindset and stable heart.

2. CULTIVATE FRIENDSHIP WITH YOUR PARTNER

Romance does fade in time I have to say. If you are addicting to that ‘I-am-kilig-in-love’ feeling then marriage is not for you because, yes, sustaining that fleeting high is temporary. It is important to cultivate friendship with your partner. You have to remember that you will be with this person for the long haul. You will be creating memories, creating a family, a home with this person. How can you do that if you are not fond that person’s company or you can’t talk about anything under the sun with that person?

Your partner should be the first person you would be excited to share that good news you got from your work, that funny video you saw in youtube or that the person you want to ask if you have an important decision to make.

3. DONT FORGET TO SAY THANK YOU AND SAY SORRY

Just because you are married that doesn’t mean every effort your partner does for you is a given so appreciation is thrown out of the window. When one of us does something for each other like cooking dinner or carrying that heavy load of laundry or buying take-out food, we always say thank you to each other. I guess that means that we shouldn’t take each other for granted. Also if you know you are at fault, don’t hesitate to say sorry. Don’t let pride take over. Anyways, if you do, both of you are in the losing end.

4. CREATE RITUALS

Me and my hubby always watch a TV series before we sleep. It’s like our bonding moment. We always try to eat dinner together no matter how tired we are. We always have our good-morning and goodnight kiss with an I-love-you. Our mornings and evenings will not be complete without it.

5. NEVER GO TO BED ANGRY

Like I mentioned, my hubby is good at this not me, hehe. Yes, since marriage is union will a goal of forever then it is best to fix it rather than let it go broken until its unfixable.

6. ADD A BIT OF SWEET HONEY

Okay, even if romance has changed its definition during married life, it is still good to drop a bit of sweetness in your domestic life. A cute corny note, flowers on bays or valentines day, a love song post in your facebook wall or a simple “i love you, beautiful” blurted out of the blue while you are dressing up for work.

7. BE EACH OTHER’S CHEERLEADER

Life has its obstacles and struggles but what is great is you have someone who will be there for you to be your rock. Always be there to listen, give each other encouragment & solutions (if you have) or a shoulder to lean on. Don’t be the devil’s advocate. Don’t be the first one to blame or point finger on your partner. Be on their side always.

8. TAKE ADVENTURES TOGETHER

Life is full of adventure. Best to share that adventure with your partner. Travel and discover new things. Grow together. This will create more wonderful memories and will strengthen your bond. Keep an open mind always and don’t be party pooper.

9. HAVE THE SAME GOALS

Having the same goals and belief system are important in having a good family life. Both of you should be going towards the same direction. We both want to have a stable and happy family life with kids and a good home. It is something we plan and talk about a lot. We are partners in reaching these goals. We help each other and support each other. We consult each other when we make decisions.

10. PRAY FOR EACH OTHER

Both of you cannot do all of this alone. You need a divine power to create a successful marriage. Temptations and obstacles lurking readily in every corner hoping for you to show weaknesses and stop fighting its evil power. Pray, pray for a good marriage, for strength to fight away temptations, complacency and selfishness. Ask you family and friends to pray for both of you.

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I know it is too early still in our marriage but we see this as our triumph.We have hurdled the first year. One year and more to go. We congratulate ourselves at after 1 year we are still are happy with our decision that we choose each other as life partners.

That why we need all your prayers still that we can make it to Silver or Gold anniversary, hehe… If you have any tips for us, do drop us a line.

Love, love, love…..

INSPIRATIONAL SUNDAY: FINDING MR. RIGHT

July 28, 2013 by Little Miss Honey 1,146 Comments

I was asked recently how to find Mr. Right. Hmm… That’s a hard question. Finding Mr. Right ? Giving relationship advice is like threading on thin ice. I don’t claim to be an expert on relationship. I recently married a great guy and we are very happy with no dramas or complications. We are very much in our “honeymoon stage”. So my relationship advice might come out biased to some. But here is my attempt to to answer that question, How to find Mr.Right?

According to Bo Sanchez, “How To Find You One True Love“, there is no such thing as soulmate or only one Mr. Right. God has given us free will and laid out several options of men to choose from. It might not come easy to accept this concept especially by true-blue romantics. I once told a guy-friend of mine who tends to shift from girl to girl, “Choose one and make it work“. Nobody is perfect. There will always be something lacking or annoying in your current partner. Just choose one. Don’t just pick him/her but your other foot is out of the door just in case someone better will come along and you will run out of the door to the next person. I am pretty sure that next person will have another set of shortcomings just like the other person you left. But you must take this advice with a grain of salt. Choosing just anyone also needs a spicy ingredient: its chemistry or compatibility. I learned this the hard way. Just because a person is perfect on paper or mighty good-looking, it doesn’t mean you can make it work. You need enough ounce of chemistry to keep it going. I assume you would want to be with this person for the long haul. Its important that you can at least have a plausible lengthy conversations and see things eye-to-eye. What would a handsome face and a good diploma do when you are stuck on traffic and you have nothing to talk about?

Know your intentions. I known some women who says they want to be in a relationship but their actions says the opposite. It is best to be honest with yourself if you are serious in wanting to be in a committed relationship. Go to a quiet place like a coffeeshop maybe. Get a pen and paper and list the qualities you want in a man who you hope to be your partner. You can go wild with this list. But remember don’t get boxed in with this list. This is just to organised your thoughts in what type of man you want for a partner. But never expect that you will meet a guy with all the qualities you have listed. Be realistic. Admitting that you are ready for a serious relationship and putting it in paper is like telling the universe that yes, you are ready, Believe me when I made that list that day, the very next day, a nice man started courting who later became my husband. And no, not all the traits I listed was present in my husband, hehe, which is fine by me. And please also don’t expect that same thing will happen the next day when you make the list. I might just been a coincidence in my case. But it is worth a shot.

Be open. Don’t discriminate. When someone asked you out, don’t pull out that list from your bag. Its just a date, a chance to make new friends. It is not a job application for a husband. Don’t marry that list because it will never make you find the man of your dreams. It is just a guide but not a contract. Plus life will suprise you of what you need in your life is not exactly what you want in life. If you open up to possibilities , you might truly find your Mr. Right.

You can tell your friends and family in passing that you are single and if they know anyone they might set you up with, you are game for it. But don’t act desperate. This is one of the qualities men hate and will drive away potential suitors. Men are intelligent, they can smell desperation like a stinky old skunk. If you want it too much, you will never get it just like a cat running after her own tail.

Be the best version of yourself. Improve yourself and occupy yourself with self-improvement. Not because you are look for a man but because you want to be a better person. While you are busying improving yourself, I am sure around the corner, a person will see what a great person you are and will be magnetize by your radiance. Just pray and don’t lose hope. Love is just around the corner. You will not find Mr. Perfect but you will definitely find Mr. Right for you.

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BEST PART OF MY MANILA TRIPS

December 19, 2011 by Little Miss Honey 1,536 Comments

I have been goin’ to and fro’ Manila and back here in Iloilo recently. It’s nice to try the new restos in Manila or restos & shops I missed or the stores where I get to replenish my staple cosmetics. But by far, the best part of my Manila trips are getting to meet up with my old friends and my sister.

I met up with my longtime classmate/friend in College & in Med School and Pediatric resident physician, Dr. Mercy Sipole. Due to lack of time, Mercy met up with me and my sis in the airport food court. Chat time galore and a lot of catching up….. Yes, it was a nonstop chat fest. And then another classmate/friend in College & in Med School and Occupational physician, Dr. Lou Salibio catch up with us in the airport food court, few minutes before my boarding time, hehe.

During my trip, I also met up with my friend and Med School classmate Dr. June Ann Rosales-de Vera, now a Rehabilitation resident physician in Philippine General Hospital. She toured me around the hospital and introducing her specialization to me. I enjoyed it so much and I got quite intrigued of Rehab Medicine.

But of course, the “best-est” part of all is spending time with my sister dear: bonding to the max, never-ending chikas, food binges and contagious laughter til the wee hours of the night.

Miss you guys! See you again next time, k……

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