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SUCCESS DOESN’T HAVE ONE FACE

October 4, 2018 by Little Miss Honey 831 Comments

Success

We love to use the word Success often. We throw that word everywhere & anywhere. We often wish for ourselves and our loved-ones success in their life. But what does it really mean?

Success

I realised that people often misunderstood the real meaning of success. Most people think that success is a one-fit-all kind-of thing. Often people would have a standardised notion of what success looks & feels like. They would automatically conclude someone or something is unsuccessful based on their own preconceived idea of what success is. But the funny thing is, with the complexity of life and human beings, vision of success varies so much that there is no point to compare.

Success

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Success does not have the same face. Each individual have their very own barometer for success. Sadly, most people forces down their idea of success to others. I have friends and loved-one lamenting in their life situations, financial status & career path when they compare themselves to the ‘successful’ people they know because society forces their idea of what success should look like. Majority chooses the common “successful” path designed by media thinking that is supposed to be the path they need to move toward to achieve the ‘medal of success’.

Success in Career Choice

Usually, when you graduate with a title like a Doctor, Lawyer or Engineer, you are automatically considered successful. The amount of hardship in such courses are definitely achievement but that does mean we should discredit the other courses other people chose? I believe as long as you choose a course or profession that you love and managed to finish it, that is success. No need for fancy titles.

Now that there is a growing recognition to creative professions like artists, writers, performers but we often categorise them successful only when they are recognised and featured publicly. How about people who are silently happy, contented and doing extremely well in their chosen not-so popular careers? Shouldn’t that qualify as success too?

I would have conversations with stay-at-home moms who are happy taking care of their young-ones at home but share their thought when browsing to Facebook & feel inferior because they see their “successful” classmates having “real” jobs. But isn’t being a full-time mom a job in itself? They know they are amazing full-time moms but sadly, they feel unsuccessful because society said success mean power suits & title before your name.

Success in Life Status

I have to say this: Getting married is not a box to tick to say you are moving forward in life. Does that mean if you choose to stay single, you are not getting on with you life? Getting married is not an achievement, staying married is. Big big difference. Plus marriage is not for everybody. So please to all seemingly-concerned aunties, don’t force marriage to all your single relatives because marriage is not the answer to success. I am a Catholic and I know that there are 3 vocations out there: Married Life, Singlehood and Religious Life and neither are more superior than the other. Let people choose their life status. This is not the time of Jane Austen when marriage is a sport in the society as to who among the age-appropriate women get to receive a marriage proposal first.

Success in Living Abroad

Sadly, in Filipino Culture, living & working abroad is considered to be a success among families. Is it really? Does that mean if you are earning comfortably well in your home country, you are still considered step-down in the success ladder compared to your counterparts who are living abroad? Some people doesn’t realise the hardship of overseas foreign workers outside of their home country. There is a lot of adjustments and sacrifices. And though the salary might seem higher than those who prefer to stay in their own countries, we, OFWs, are paying for the high living expenses in those countries, toiling unglamorously which our cameras don’t capture & posted in social media for the world to see. Most people rather stay in their own countries, earning an adequate salary and living like kings & queens with 1-2 helpers in their own comfortable houses. But some people would easily assume abroad is success, those people who are ‘stuck’ in their home countries are not.

Success in Material Things

Can you quantity success by your branded bag, your expensive shoes and your glittery jewelries? It is easy to say, I bet he/she is successful having to acquire those. I guess you forget that devilish item called Credit Card. Anyone can look rich and successful nowadays but check again their bank accounts & credit score, are they really? Those are not measurements of success as most people think they are. Some prefers less things and have peaceful lives. And they feel successful enough to have all their necessities met.

The list would go on. I guess my point is, success has different faces. Define your own type of success. We don’t need to mimic the success of our neighbours. Success is knowing that you have achieve your purpose in life, having that happiness & contentment on your life choices and achieving that goal that you set (not by anyone) for yourself.

Our definition of success changes over time. Let us define success in our own terms. Enjoy the journey towards it. Sometimes we need to take our time in reaching our goal of success and not be influenced with whispers that doesn’t echo our core being. Just remember we are all a work in progress. We all have the right to own the brand of success we want to achieve.

Success

Filed Under: Inspirations Tagged With: Life, OFW, positivity, Success

2ND YEAR WEDDING ANNIVERSARY

May 18, 2015 by Little Miss Honey 672 Comments

Honey & Janro

“A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with same person.”
-Mignon McLaughlin

Today marks my 2nd wedding anniversary with my hubby. They say it’s after the 1st year of marriage that marriage becomes a real challenge. Honeymoon stage is over and real life begins.

We did experienced minor life challenges along the way but we triumphed over it. We were parents for the first time and we didn’t know what to do. Add the obstacles of living in a foreign country. It was not easy.

   Honey & Janro

But there we realize that marriage is about partnership. You must have the same ideals and goals to manuever through life. It takes resiliency, patience, trust, understanding and a whole lot of love.

Honey & Janro

It’s a nice feeling to know that you have someone by your side when everything or anything fails. Seeing my hubby and our son sleeping soundly beside and my heart would swell with so much love for my two boys.

Honey & Janro

Marriage is tough they say. We are still in our 2nd year and I know we have a long way to go. But prayers and faith are there to help us. And love, it all boils down to love.

Honey & Janro

I am not an expert on marriage or love but I will have another blog post advice for single women searching for love, so stay tuned for that. I have to apologize this week will be filled with lots of blog posts about love. Don’t barf. Don’t worry, I promise to keep it not too mushy.

Honey & Janro

To my life partner and my love, Happy 2nd Wedding Anniversary! Here is to many more… We can do this, hehe…

 

All Photos by Bordoy Virtebo Photography

Filed Under: Inspirations Tagged With: anniversary, jhearth, Life, Love, marriage

THINGS THAT INSPIRED ME THIS WEEK

May 17, 2015 by Little Miss Honey 738 Comments

In the middle of the week,  something came in the mail that might or might not produce some big changes in me and my family’s life. Or it could also mean making new decisions or new choices in our life.

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Everyday we are bombarded with choices, big & small. Sometimes we prefer to make the same choices everyday in fear of the unknown. But sometimes we also have to make new choices to test ourselves and explore life surprises.

How about you? How do you deal with life-changing decisions?

But for the meantime, here are a round-up of links I found online that inspired me this week:

Stop sabotaging you marriage

Can’t wait to watch Perfect Pitch 2! Check out with music video of the movie featuring our very own Gab Valenciano dancing

I will stop eating these foods

Congratulation El Gamma Penumbra for winning Asia’s Got Talent

For a person born with a birthmark, these photos of people with freckles are absolutely stunning

God bless professors like this!

I will be making portable snacks like these 

My hubby sent this link to me about how to discipline children. Definitely will need this.

Would you marry your partner if you know how you would look like when you’re 70?

Hope you all have a great Sunday! It’s work day for some tomorrow but I am one happy gal because tomorrow, its my off day! Jealous? hahahaha…….

Filed Under: Inspirations Tagged With: Chances, Choices, Decisions, Life


Hi I'm Honey! I am a Filipina who has studied & lived in Saudi Arabia for a few years, worked in Singapore and is currently based in Oman with my husband & our three little boys. I am a medical doctor, a lifestyle blogger, travel junkie, a foodie and a bookworm. I hope I can drizzle a bit of sunshine and inspirations whenever you drop by my blog. Thanks for dropping by! See ya soon.. :)
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