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DEPRESSION & THE DIFFERENT SHADES OF MELANCHOLY OF LIVING ABROAD

July 1, 2018 by Little Miss Honey 2,981 Comments

Last month, we heard devastating news of famous successful rich people passing away. Kate Spade and Anthony Bourdain, beloved & admired, committed suicide due to that evil monster called depression. There are more people suffering from it that we don’t know, just silently suffering. Statistics shows that there are 300 million people around the world have depression, according to the World Health Organization.

from www.cnn.com

from: www.vogue.co.uk

Some people who never experienced depression or that extreme sadness would never understand it and would often brush off as ‘a silly emotion’ that will just go away. But I have to tell you, it is not as easy as sweeping dust off the table with your hand.

I had my bouts of depressive state when I stated medical school. It was one of the stressful phases in my life. The pressure was overwhelming that I would have night terrors literally every night and my anxieties were over the roof. I needed help and did asked for help. It got a bit better when I relaxed a bit and didn’t chased for high grades anymore. Yes, my academic ranking suffered. I was surprised I survived medical school inspite of it. But at least, I kept my wits intact and any possibility of nervous breakdown was contained. Maybe that’s why I got so interested in psychiatry in the first place. However, I eventually didn’t pursue it and turned to Family Medicine instead.

Credit: Death by Stock

As a doctor, allow me to give you a little lecture on depression. A person who suffers from a major depressive disorder (sometimes also referred to as clinical depression or simply depression) must either have a depressed mood or a loss of interest or pleasure in daily activities consistently for at least a 2 week period. This depressed mood must represent a significant change from the person’s normal mood. To be diagnosed as a clinical depression, it must have the presence of 5 or more of these depressive symptoms:

▪ Depressed mood most of the day, nearly every day, as indicated by either subjective report (e.g., feeling sad, blue, “down in the dumps,” or empty) or observations made by others (e.g., appears tearful or about to cry). (In children and adolescents, this may present as an irritable or cranky, rather than sad, mood.)

▪ Markedly diminished interest or pleasure in all, or almost all, activities every day, such as no interest in hobbies, sports, or other things the person used to enjoy doing

▪ Significant weight loss when not dieting or weight gain (e.g., a change of more than 5 percent of body weight in a month), or decrease or increase in appetite nearly every day

▪ Insomnia (inability to get to sleep or difficulty staying asleep) or hypersomnia (sleeping too much) nearly every day

▪ More days than not, problems with sitting still, including constant restlessness, pacing, or picking at one’s cloths (called psychomtotor agitation by professionals); or the opposite, a slowing of one’s movements, talking very quietly with slowed speech (called psychomotor retardation by professionals)

▪ Fatigue, tiredness, or loss of energy nearly every day — even the smallest tasks, like dressing or washing, seem difficult to do and take longer than usual

▪ Feelings of worthlessness or excessive or inappropriate guilt nearly every day (e.g., ruminating over minor past failings)

▪ Diminished ability to think or concentrate, or indecisiveness, nearly every day (e.g., appears easily distracted, complains of memory difficulties)

▪ Recurrent thoughts of death (not just fear of dying), recurrent suicidal ideas without a specific plan, or a suicide attempt or a specific plan for committing suicide

*Taken from Psychcentral.com

Depression is real. It is a serious chemical deficiency in the human brain. Factors contributing to it could be stress, genetics, changes in hormone levels, certain medical conditions, grief or difficult life circumstances. It is a horrible condition that may affect anyone, even if you are rich, beautiful, talented or successful. Just look at Kate and Anthony.

I am sure there are more people out there silently suffering. Crying quietly behind closed doors, faking their smiles, cutting themselves, acting out, struggling and hoping you will hear their silent plea. There is such thing as a high-functioning depressive. It made me think that one of the susceptible people who would be afflicted with depression are people who are living abroad, expats who uproot themselves from their home country for better work opportunities abroad, foreigner adjusting to new cultures, belief & way of life and lonely folks trying to find new friends in their new life.

Depression Winter

Here are few tips to prevent depression living abroad:

1. Make new friends and make time for friends

2. Exercise or get your body moving

3. Eat a balanced diet and avoid processed food

4. Pray

5. Meditate and practice mindfulness

6. Get some sunshine. (Could be hard for countries with long winter)

7. Schedule pampering session

8. Take a break from work

9. Start a new hobby

10. Join organization of your interest

11. Spend time with a person with a positive outlook in life

12. Look at life in the eyes of a child

13. Get adequate sleep

14. Avoid too much vices

15. Seek help if needed

If you feel like you need professional help and have recurring thoughts of ending your life, please reach out to the organizations below:

• Samaritans of Singapore: 1800-221-4444

• Singapore Association for Mental Health: 1800-283-7019

• CHAT @ *SCAPE: (+65) 6493 6500, (+65) 6493 6501

• SAF Counselling Hotline: 1800-278-0022

Filed Under: Expat Diaries, Inspirations Tagged With: Anthony Bourdain, depression, Kate Spade, korea, Mental Health, seoul, Suicide, Winter

KOREA TRIP DAY 4: TOSOKCHON, GYEONGBOKGUNG PALACE

March 23, 2017 by Little Miss Honey 1,844 Comments

Gyeongbokgung Palace

We woke up on our 4th day in Seoul to a snow-covered city. It is such a pretty sight. The roofs of establishments, roof of cars, the trees and pavement are covered with white powdery snow.

Snow in Korea

We lazed around for a bit in our beds and occasionally opening the window to see the remnants of the melting snow.  We bathed and wrap ourselves with winter wear and then we headed out. We said that we might not have experience snow but at least we saw what snow looks like, hehe.

Snow in Korea

Snow in Korea

Snow in Korea

For the day, we were having lunch at Tosokchon. It is famous for its Samgyetang, a ginseng chicken soup. It is found by going down Gyeongbokgung Station Exit 2 then go straight about 170 m and turn left to Jahamun-ro-5-gil Road. Tosokchon is located at the left where you find a long queue of people.

Tosokchon

But good thing is that the queue moves very fast and soon, we got our tables. You dine in tatami style in Tosokchon. Fynn wants to walk around and grabbing bowls and utensils everywhere, haha.

Tosokchon

We ordered 2 Samgyetang, 1 Haemul Paejon ( Green Onion Pancake with Seafood) and 1 roasted chicken. It was such a sumptuous meal. I love the broth of the ginseng chicken and the glutinous rice tucked inside it. The roasted chicken was really yummy too. It was soft, juicy and flavorful. The pancake was huge! It was so filling.

Tosokchon

Tosokchon

Tosokchon

After our wonderful meal, we walked to the Gyeongbokgung Palace which is just near by. Thankful for the Changi Recommends portable wifi, it helped a lot in taking us to where we wanna go. There was a thick piles of snow in the entrance of the palace. We couldn’t help but take photos of it.  We may sound like country bumpkins being so mesmerize by the presence of snow. Haha!

Snow in Korea

Snow in Korea

We got our tickets first which cost 3,000 KRW and of course, our kids again got a free pass. Remember that on Tuesday, Gyeongbokgung Palace is closed.

Gyeongbokgung Palace is the main and largest royal palace of the Joseon Dynasty. There were several tourists there where hanbok and having professional photographers taking their photos. I was hoping to witness the changing guards which I thought are scheduled at 10:00 AM, 13:00 PM and 15:00 PM daily except Tuesday it was 3PM and still changing guards.

So just we took photos of the Palace and the King’s throne. Naj played with more snow and he started crying because the snow was seeping in his gloves and it was too cold. J have to remove his gloves and gave him heat packs for his hands. Naj finally was soothed.

Gyeongbokgung Palace

Gyeongbokgung Palace

Gyeongbokgung Palace

Gyeongbokgung Palace

We roamed around for a bit and took more photos. On our way back to the MRT, I bought coffee from this cute cafe shop which I failed to take photos of and hang out at Dunkin Donuts for snacks for my boys.

We went back to Insadong to buy some stuff. I wanted to try going to this Poop Cafe located in Ssamziegil Mall which in found in the heart of Insadong.

The Poop Cafe is found at the back of Ssamziegil. There were plight of wooden stairs going there. There were sounds of pooping sounds going up to the cafe. The waiter unfortunately told us that kids are not allowed to enter so we just headed back to our hotel instead.

For dinner, I thought of buying take-outs for us. I left my boys in the hotel while I ventured out to Dongdaemun which is very near anyway. I bought some bonchon chicken at Kyochon. Dongdaemun is known for retail shopping up until 1AM. I found lots of restaurant open 24 hours or until 1 AM.

I went back to the hotel and had a hearty picnic with my boys in the hotel carpet. I love Kyochon Fried Chicken. I love the flavor though Bonchon and 4 Fingers are still more crunchy. But either ways, we were so full with our hotel picnic dinner which watching HBO movie.

Filed Under: Travel Tagged With: changi recommends, Dongdaemon, Dunkin Donuts, family, family travel, Gyeongbokgung Palace, insadong, korea, Korean Chicken, Kyochon, seoul, snow, toskochon, Tosokchon, winter travel

KOREA TRIP DAY 3: PETITE FRANCE, NAMI ISLAND, STRAWBERRY PICKING, CAT CAFE

March 22, 2017 by Little Miss Honey 2,114 Comments

Nami Island

It was J’s birthday on the 3rd day of our Korea trip. Happy Birthday to my hubster! I wanted it to be a special day for him so I got a package from Klook for a Day Tour to Petite France, Nami Island and ends with Strawberry Picking. I got for 81 SGD per person.  Children under 3 can take part in the tour free of charge so yey, no need to get a pay for my kids. 

One thing though I failed to remember that my hubby hates waking up very early in the morning. And on his birthday, I subjected him to wake up at dawn so we can prepare for our trip which has a scheduled meeting time and the night before we were all giddy with excitement and sugars from the Krispy Kreme donuts we bought that we stated up late at night playing with the kids. But all is well and my husband is a trooper for rising early and helping me prepare the kids. Believe me, bathing and dressing up kids below 3 years during winter is not an easy task.

I indicated the chosen meeting point at Myeongdong. So I was instructed that we should be in Myeongdong Station Exit 2 at 8:00 AM to meet the rest of the group.  Since we are worried we will be running late if we take the MRT, we decided to take a cab instead to Myeongdong Station. We are glad the tour bus was still waiting for us at the meeting point. We made it! We stored our two strollers in the bus and met the other families that is joining us in the day tour. We made another stop at the Dongdaemun History & Culture Park Station to pick us the last people who will be joining us in the day tour.

The pretty Korean tour guide introduced herself to us. I completely forgot her name now though, oppps… She gave us the itinerary for the day. First, we are going to Petite France then lunch then Nami Island. And we will end by having strawberry picking at the strawberry farm. She told us we can get a shut-eye first since it will take more an hour to reach Petite France which we gladly did.

Petite France is inspired from the French novel, “Le Petit Prince” or the Little Prince by Saint-Exupery. It is a French Cultural Village set consisting of 16 French-style buildings where visitors can have a glimpse of French cultural village living.

Petite France

Petite France

The place was colorful and quirky. Each little house has its own unique charm. There were a lot of memorabilia in each little houses. There were costumes, little cars which Naj was happy about, puppets, vases and beautiful furnitures.

Petite France

Petite France

Petite France

Grumpy Babies

Petite France

Petite France

It was extremely cold that day and the kids were in a very grumpy mood. It was also a struggle climbing the steep grounds going up the village with the two strollers in tow. There was a marionette show for visitors in the big open space near the entrance but the kids were not up for it so headed back to the bus.

Everyone eventually boarded the bus as we head to Nami Island. We  took another nap again before reaching the dock going Nami Island. The tour guide gave us two choices if we wanted to eat before riding the ferry to Nami Island or we can opt to eat in Nami Island also. She gave us all our tickets before we spread out.

J said that we better eat before riding the ferry. We chose this restaurant that serves Chicken Dak Galbi. 

Chicken Dak Galbi is a popular Korean dish made of spicy stir-fried marinated diced chicken on chili pepper paste with sliced cabbage, sweet potato, scallions, onions and rice cakes.  You cooked the marinated diced chicken in front of you.

Petite France

The chicken dak galbi was really good! We enjoyed our lunch a lot. J ordered rice to go with it. J is a very picky eater so he has been loving all of the Korean dishes he has tried so far.

When we were done with lunch, we waited for the ferry to arrive. It was a large ferry with seats on the side and a big space in the middle. We were glad we didn’t need to closed the kids’ strollers. It took only 5 minutes to beautiful Nami Island.

Nami Island is indeed “nami” (Hiligaynon word meaning nice). It is a huge piece of land that is an oasis of culture and leisure for visitors. There are several pine tree and mulberry trees in the area. There were lots of pre-made snowman and  snow hills that we enjoyed playing around with Naj. Naj was also so happy with slide of ice. He can’t stop going up and slide, up and slide that we have to drag him out of there or else we will never leave the place. Hahaha!

Nami Island

Nami Island

Nami Island

Nami Island

Nami Island

Nami Island

Nami Island

The place is so picturesque, perfect for sightseeing, for photo-taking, for meditation, for romantic stroll dates. Nami Island is quite popular after it has been featured in a Korean television drama, Winter Sonata. There is even a  statue of the actors on that show there.

Nami Island

There several cafe and restaurants in the vicinity. There were traditional heating area. And I like the large dark stone statue of a breastfeeding mother .

Nami Island

Nami Island

Nami Island
When it was almost the time for us to meet back in the boat, we hurried tocatch the ferry back to Chuncheon.

When all of us were in the tour bus, we then headed to our last destination: Strawberry Farm.

I have never seen how strawberries were planted and harvested. I didn’t know they are housed in a little green house. The owners educated us on the perfect strawberry for picking and they even helped picked some of them. We got two big plastic containers and we ate some as we picked. They were the sweetest strawberries I have every tasted. I often tried strawberries and there have more of the sourish taste but the strawberries I tasted in Seoul was so sweet & yummy.

Strawberry Farm

Strawberry Farm

Strawberry Farm

With all our plastic containers filled with juicy strawberries, we headed back to the city. We told the tour guide, they can drop us off in Myeongdong.

In Myeongdong, we wanted to go to a cafe for some birthday cake for the birthday boy. We saw a Cat Mascot with a signboard Cat Cafe. We asked the cat to show us where the cafe is. The cat lead us to the cat cafe.

We need to remove our shoes to enter. The Cat Cafe was warm and toasty and there were different breeds of cats there sleeping or just leisurely lying around. Naj and Fynn enjoyed playing with the cats and sometimes chasing them. There is an entrance to the place with a free drink. We got slices of cakes as well.

Cat Cafe Myeongdong

Cat Cafe Myeongdong

Cat Cafe Myeongdong

I would love to stay longer and hang around but we were all so tired already. We brushed out the cat hairs from our clothes, wore our shoes and took a cab back to our hotel.

It was a tiring but exciting day. I hoped my hubby enjoyed his birthday inspite the early morning travel and the heavily-packed day. But those wide smiles and contented eyes when we were playing around the snow with our kids says it all. I am sure he did. 

Filed Under: Travel Tagged With: cat cafe, family, family travel, Klook, korea, nami island, petite france, seoul, strawberry picking, travel

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Hi I'm Honey! I am a Filipina who has studied & lived in Saudi Arabia for a few years, worked in Singapore and is currently based in Oman with my husband & our three little boys. I am a medical doctor, a lifestyle blogger, travel junkie, a foodie and a bookworm. I hope I can drizzle a bit of sunshine and inspirations whenever you drop by my blog. Thanks for dropping by! See ya soon.. :)
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