Relationship rules say that partners should communicate and tell each other everything. But there are few topics that women should stop talking about to their men. Believe me, they are tired of hearing about it but are just too scared of a women’s fury to tell you to shut up. But woman to woman, I hope you hear me out. Here are the 5 things men find irritating to listen to:
1. YOUR WEIGHT
One of the dreaded question of men is when their partner ask them, “Darling, am I fat?” This is a double-edged sword question for men. If they say “no”, you’ll think they are lying and if they say “yes, you’ll get upset. The best way for this is just to ask a well-meaning honest close friend for an opinion. Or better yet, if you know for a fact you, indeed, gained weight, just do you’re best to lose the pounds without making your boyfriend/husband suffer with that deadly question.
2. YOUR PAST/ EXES
Stop bringing into the conversation your past or your exes. Stop the comparison. It is very annoying and discouraging to hear stories of the past and especially your exes. Men hardly talks about them. (Tip: If he do mention his ex too often, then maybe he still have feelings for her). Because for men, past is the past. And past should remain in the past.
3. GIRLY GOSSIPS
Men occasionally likes to hear interesting stories but don’t bombard him of silly talks about your-officemates-bestfriends-latest-schinanigans or your old-schoolmate-lastest-hook-up. If you start a lengthy unnecessary story of a girl you know (which he didn’t even met) and her interesting (for you it is) current life story with your boyfriend/husband, I guarantee you, he is already zoning you out and thinking of his latest NBA draft. Don’t bother your men for girly gossips, that’s what galpals are for.
4. YOUR LATEST FAVORITE TV SERIES
You are in luck if you and your partner like the same type of shows. But some women prefers romantic /drama while men loves to watch sport or action series. So if you are hoping to covert your boyfriend/husband to be a “Girls” or “Hart of Dixie” fanatic by giving him a blow-by-blow account of the plot from episode 1 to 13, all your efforts will be in vain, I tell you.
5. YOUR ADMIRERS
Men are visually-stimulated so one reason why he is with you, aside from your many other great qualities, is that he find you aesthetically-pleasing. So rest assured, he finds you attractive already. But for you to tell him, your almost everyday encounter of people who tells you that you are pretty or finds you beautiful or men who gets your number or is crushing on you, it can get irritating. Ok, you still have to tell your man if someone is seriously pursuing you because that is a different story. But if it is just those minor pass that you want to tell your boyfriend/husband more to brag or announce to him that “you are so lucky, baby”. He knows that he is already, you don’t need to prove it to him. Admiration is best when it comes from other people mouth and not from your mouth. It is more attractive that way. If someone approach him and say, ‘You are so lucky, you got a pretty wife’, he will be more proud of you that those words coming from you.
Do you have any topics to add in the list? Any objection from men out there? True or False?
P.S. Yes, in one time or the other, I am guilty of these too… Sorry, Hubby….
*Disclaimer: may not hold true to all men but majority of men would agree to this.