Do you notice that there are mirrors that make you look fat or not so pretty and there are mirror that make you say, “Damn, don’t I look fine?” With the popularity of smart phone and high-pixel camera phones, people love to take a picture of themselves by facing a mirror. I am never good at that. I would never know how to position the phone or I wouldn’t know where to concentrate- smiling for the camera, where I should look or when I should push the camera button. Here is me and my hubby, attempting to do one of those camera-in-front-a -mirror picture:
I read in the Shakti Gawain, “LIVING IN THE LIGHT“, that people around are our mirrors. That is what she calls, “mirroring”. We see what we are through other people and they reflect our inner beings. But like usual mirrors we see, people can reflect either like the “bad” mirrors or “good” mirrors. Let us take an example. Think of a celebrity or a popular person in your school that you admire. Usually that person either have a slight resemblance of you or has a trait that you possess (or you didn’t know you actually possess but you have). In another spectrum, think of a person you hate or despise. Usually these persons are people who has traits that (if you look closer) you have that you don’t like. Or these persons have traits that you secretly and (enviously) wish you have. As you could see, people around us and close to us mirror our inner soul and reflects to us what is our core being. We all have our good and bad traits but it is our duty to ourselves to concentrate more and refine our better traits.
Thus, we should concentrate in having more positive mirrors in our life. We need to ditch and wave goodbye to the “ugly” mirrors in our lives so we won’t get a distorted vision of ourselves. And if we could remove ourselves fro these negative human mirrors, I suggest you don’t look or at least don’t believe in the reflection you see when facing them. It would be a tough task but this is a way to preserved our self-esteem.
In my wedding vows, I told my husband that when I look into his eyes, I see a better version of me. That is so true. When I am with him, I feel that he sees me in a light that makes me happy with myself & proud of myself. In turn, I want to become an even better person because he believes in me. We all need that in our lives- a positive reflection of ourself. Hopefully, we, too, can all be positive mirrors to people around us.