Here is a question my guest blogger, Bambi Pelobello, would like to throw to single women out there: ARE YOU WILLING TO WAIT FOR TRUE LOVE?
“I am true to my promise yet I also want you to know that all these promises have its perfect time. I want you to renew your heart and have me occupy all of it. I want to remove all your doubts…I know everything just as I know all your desires. I know the very essence of it but I also know that it’s not yet its season. I know you well.”
These were words I saw in my journal dated August 7, 2014. In the next few pages my writing continues:
WAITING for God’s timing is not in vain. A thousand years means nothing. As I restlessly abandon myself to Him I know it is preeminent for me. That this interval is not measured by my understanding of time, that aligning to His dance is to let go of all my attachments.
History tells how the Israelites waited for the Messiah for such a long time and isn’t it their hearts were burning the promise was fulfilled when Christ was born? The Jews waited 40 years before they we’re freed from Egypt…there were much rejoicing then. Or that moment in the scripture that tells Jesus’ death and His disciples anxious. In their anxiety they hid themselves but also recalled His words that He will raise from the dead. True to His words, on that Easter morning the scripture was fulfilled and their sorrows turned into joy. All of these were progressions of what will come – what will be, it is waiting.
Waiting means there is something worth it. You don’t wait because everyone else is doing it. Waiting is not something done without purpose, it is always for something hoped or longed for. It may be difficult but know that there is an outcome after it. More than that you wait because you know at some point there is a probable result. Like the seasons, winter comes before spring. Isn’t it winter last longer than Spring? The season of winter is also our waiting period – because our celebration comes in Spring.
In general, we wait for a response when we ask a question; we also wait to get our answer be it a machine processing it’s installed memory or a person we talked to. We make time for it or the person to formulate an answer in the same way that we are waited to articulate a question.
That’s why we wait for reply/replies over text, email, and phone calls. We wait when we pay our bills or at the grocery store, we fall in line waiting for our turn, we wait for the train/jeepney to stop to aboard it and take us to our destinations. On an interview, we patiently wait. Often on days when we want to watch our favorite TV series, we just wait. Life is not complete if you don’t wait.
There are different events though that may need longer waiting; like getting a Visa, applying for a license, an approval of a project, a result over a national examination like a Board/BAR. Though others takes shorter time of waiting period, like the lining up on a blockbuster, boarding a plane, paying for something or for the bank teller to assist your deposit or withdrawal on your bank account.
Intentional and purposeful
There’s so much to wait for in our life; like reservations on a cruise, tour packages there will always be a response but waiting for a lifetime partner is not buying an MRT ticket, paying the bills or all other forms of waiting. It is deliberately serious. It is something that would need a much detailed approach while it is a customary to have a bill waiting for a partner needs discernment.
Like a woman who waits for her baby to be born. How sweet it is when that day comes and she’s able to wrap her arms on the tiny creature. Perhaps she may have counted a million times her child’s fingers and toes only if only to assure her that it is the reality of her long wait. How must her heart skipped to see her beautiful baby as she holds her. Who would have thought that her life was at risk in those nine long months, nonetheless she prepares. Carefully detailing everything needed when the baby comes. She did not sit around complaining of the weight or the pains she feels; instead she takes good care of herself, her health not only for hers more so for the little one growing inside her.
To wait for a partner is also like the package you always wanted delivered at your doorstep. When it arrives you don’t leave it uncheck. You are actually excited to open it, to inspect for breakage as you turn it upside down, left to right to confirm that it’s the right package you had in mind.
Sometimes it’s like buying the right pair of shoes, thoroughly trying it for the fit, comfort, the sole, the design and more. You just don’t take the first pair you had your eyes set on until you have inspected it for your specifications and satisfaction. Buying it was also set and planned, you just don’t go to a store at the spur of the moment buying what your eyes have set on. Your intelligent choice on a pair of shoes or even your personal wardrobe needs a careful and thorough scrutiny.
The same is true in waiting and choosing your lifetime partner — you verify all that is written in your checklist. The reason why you wait for it and not simply ‘giving away’ what you have… in buying a pair of shoe you wanted you also prepare for its amount – – same when you wait for your future lifetime partner…you prepare till he/she comes. You don’t wait around twitchily rather productively. You just don’t have to go around content being a barnyard chicken when you can soar as an eagle. So keep yourself busy with things you can do, ought to do and want to do till that person comes.
It is challenging but there is grace in waiting. We are refined in patience and trust that it will end. We are reformed in our prayers as we allow ourselves to bask in His presence. We develop the maturity to understand and the wisdom to know. We learn to humbly seek only His will and desiring it. Moreover, we are changed inwardly by the same grace believing that everything will come to past. Yes it will end maybe soon for some or a little while for others. It is not certain. I only believe that as I receive this grace while I wait, I know I am purified. That my confidence is magnified in the intricate design that God reveals to me every day, and in all its colors. And as I continue on this process; it is not important what standards I have rather the changing ‘me’ to be the person God wanted me to be that when the time is right I am ready.
If you are also single and waiting for this future spouse, remember our father is the King of Kings and we are His priceless princes and princesses deserving the best. Knowing this truth, believe in His promise that He is God and (I want you to also) own what He has revealed to me in prayer: “…I have always loved you with an everlasting love. You are my joy, you are my delight. I will never forsake or abandon you.” I haven’t found my partner yet but I know he is coming and my heart will recognize him and he will acknowledge it. If not, nothing is wasted because in the end, it’s not about finding my partner but in finding myself in His plan and attuning my love for His ultimate purpose. I pray for you too as you wait and be bless for what will come!
Thank Bambi for inspiration my single readers that love is worth the wait.
For more inspirations from Bambi, head over to her blog.