CHYE SENG HUAT HARDWARE COFFEE

We would have thought that coffee and hardware goes together perfectly . A good friend and colleague of mine told me that she went to have coffee in this hardware. What??!! Really?!! So when my sister visit me here in Singapore that is where we headed.

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Chye Seng Huat Hardware‘s exterior is not that impressive. It looks like an innocent good ‘ol hardware but inside reveals a funky coffee shop for the hip and cool crowd.

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My sister and I rode the MRT going to the coffeeshop and it was quite a walk from Lavender station. We were famished! We ordered a lot!

BLACK PEPPER PORK CHOP

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                                                      Black Pepper Pork Chop 16 SGD

The carnivore in me is squealing  “oink! oink!” meaning I love it! The steak is full of rich flavour and tender. This comes with steamed veggies & mashed potatoes Do not be fooled by this moderate size meat because it is very filling.

THE HUAT BREAKFAST

The Huat Breakfast

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This is a breakfast of champions. It contains two perfectly-scrambled eggs, two bacon slices, jumbo sausage, pastrami, grilled tomatoes, sautéed potatoes with buttered croissant. Doesn’t that just make you… burp! Oppsss…. Sorry.

PHILLY CHEESE STEAK SANDWICH

Philly Cheese Steak Sandwich

                                        Philly Cheese Steak Sandwich 13 SGD

This sandwich surprised me of how good it is. It seem to me like a big boy’s sandwich. It has these thinly-sliced steak with melted cheese in a Turkish bread. It comes with tortilla chips on the sides.

 

FRENCH TOAST

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                                            French Toast 12 SGD

Doesn’t this look like perfection? Unfortunately, it was just that, pretty to look at but I wasn’t too impressed with it. It wasn’t that bad but it didn’t make my palate sing, if you know what I mean.

COCONUT CAKE WITH HOMEMADE LEMONADES

coconut cake with homemade lemonadesThe  coconut cake and homemade lemonades ($5) are combination for a refreshing snacks. They reminds me of summertime. They are not too sweet, just right.

 

CSHH ICED COFFEE

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We finished up with their cold brewed coffee ($7). I was expecting a lot from this coffee but still, Forty Hands coffee is still first in my book until a better one comes along. But placing it in amber bottles is a nice touch.

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My sister and I are both happy customers. Chye Seng Huat Hardware is a place for you if you want to chill in a unique interiors with tummy-filling foods. Four-thumbs up! Burp! Opsss, sorry again….

Chye Seng Huat Hardware
50 Tyrwhitt Road, Singapore 207563
Tel: +65 6396 0609
Opening hours: 9am to 7pm (Tue –Thu); 9am to 10pm (Fri – Sun); closed Mondays
Website: http://www.cshhcoffee.com

5 FAVORITE ROBIN WILLIAMS MOVIES QUOTES

Sad sad news was announced last 11th of August  that respected actor, Robin Williams passed away, ending his struggle of depression. I am not really a big big fan of Robin Williams but he did leave a great body of work and he got my respect.

Here are my 5 Favorite Robin William movies and favourite movie quotes:

1. DEAD POETS SOCIETY

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John Keating: “Boys, you must strive to find your own voice. Because the longer you wait   to begin, the less likely you are to find it at all. Thoreau said, “Most men lead lives of quiet desperation.” Don’t be resigned to that. Break out!”

2. PATCH ADAMS

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Hunter Patch Adams: “I love you without knowing how, or when, or from where. I love you straightforwardly without complexities or pride. I love you because I know no other way then this. So close that your hand, on my chest, is my hand. So close, that when you close your eyes, I fall asleep.”

3. ONE HOUR PHOTO

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Sy Parrish: ‘And if these pictures have anything important to say to future generations, it’s this: I was here. I existed. I was young, I was happy, and someone cared enough about me in this world to take my picture’.

4. HOOK

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Granny Wendy: ‘So… your adventures are over.’
Peter Banning: ‘Oh, no. To live… to live would be an awfully big adventure.’

5. MRS. DOUBTFIRE

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Daniel: ‘Ever wish you could freeze frame a moment in your day, and look at it and say this is not my life?’

Rest in peace, Robin Williams…..

PS. CAFE PETIT

My sister and I love cafes. Its our thing! When my sister came over here in Singapore, I wanted to take here to several cool cafes here. I was having my Graduate in Family Medicine class  at Singapore General Hospital that day she arrived so I told her that we meet up at Tiong Bahru MRT after my class. I wanted to take her to PS. Cafe Petit in Tiong Bahru.

PS. Cafe Petit is the smaller branch of the cozy popular brunch place PS. Cafe. It is more of a gourmet takeaway branch where customers call ahead for takeaway orders. They offer traditional fast foods like burgers, pizza and salad. They also have a variety of wines to choose from.

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I like how PS. Cafe Petit looks from its exterior to its interior. From the outside, you will be intrigued by its charming facade and once you come in, you will find the place perfect for cozy gathering. From its dark interior and dim yellow lights gives the cafe a bit of mysterious charm. However, the place is a bit too small for really big gatherings and if its packed, you will have to wait for seats for a bit.

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We ordered some coffee but unfortunately, I wasn’t that impressed. I still prefer the coffee at Forty Hands.

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We were famished so we got a big box of pizza. We got Hawaiian pizza – our go-to pizza. And we can’t stop raving about it! We love their pizza!! Four thumbs up, definitely.

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I was told they have great truffle fries so we went ahead and ordered some. It was presented in such a cute manner but I still prefer Forty Hands truffle fries (once again).

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Since I wasn’t that happy with my coffee, I ordered some lemon iced tea which quenched my thirst and got my seal of approval.

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PS. Cafe Petit (Tiong Bahru)

 No.41 Blk 78. Guan Chaun St, S 160078

 (+65) 9226 7088 

SAKURA INTERNATIONAL BUFFET

When me and husband’s off-workday schedule coincide , we usually go on dates (well, if we are both not in our lazy mood, hehe). We both love food!!! We had a temporary obsession to Ben & Jerry Ice Cream. I told him of this buffet restaurant that serves eat-all-you can Ben & Jerry Ice Cream. So that is where we headed to.

Sakura International Buffet Restaurant serves a wide range of dishes not only restricted to Japanese cuisine despite the name. Of course, there is the unlimited Ben & Jerry ice cream. It is good to note that they serve halal foods for our Muslim brother and sisters.

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Most people doesn’t rave too much about this buffet restaurant but me and hubby are quite happy customers. We were so full, its like our stomaches are going too explode. Hahaha!

SAKURA INTERNATIONAL BUFFET

Downtown East, 1 Pasir Ris Close, #02-02, Singapore 519599

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LETTER TO MY SON

I have been MIA from a blog for more than a month. But I have a very good reason for it. I gave birth to an adorable baby boy!!!! Yes, I just gave birth last 29th of June via caesarean section. I want to take this opportunity to write a letter to my 5weeks old baby.

Naj Brillo

Dear Son,

You don’t know how much joy you brought in your dad and my life when you came. When we learned that I am expecting you, I stared with so much amazement at the two sticks that indicated that I will be having you . I felt so blessed that I am going to be a mother to you. I avoided anything and gave up things that might harm you while you are still inside my womb. Every trip to my doctor got me excited because I can see a picture of a silhouette of you taken by this nice lady or I would hear your strong fast heartbeat. My doctor said, “Your son got a strong heart”. I say, ” I pray he will have a kind heart too.” In the middle of my pregnancy, there was a time when I got worried I might lose you. I cried walking back to our home here in Singapore. I went to several doctors for opinions and I prayed. I prayed really hard with your dad. But you are a fighter and all was well.

I was overjoyed when I started feeling your gentle kicks. First, it felt like tiny butterflies in my stomach or tiny fishes swimming gently inside. I would talk to you often. I tell you of my day, about your dad, that I love you so much and that I am so excited to meet you. I would sing to you often and even let out a few rap songs too. I would do yoga poses or swim in our pool to keep my strength up and I would think that we are both doing yoga together or swimming in the pool together. Soon, your gentle kicks grew stronger. You would kick or nudge hard when I would type vigorously on my computer when I’m working or when there are loud noises. I would feel a hand pushing up one side of my tummy. I would put my hand where your little hand is and think that we are holding hands. I would monitor your movements day and night even when I am working to make sure you are doing okay inside me. Your dad would come home asking me how is his little boy doing the whole day. He would talk to you every night. When I sleep at night, I could feel your dad touch my tummy and feel if he can catch your little movements. I would lie often on my right side because it seems to be your favourite position. When I turn to the left, you seem to be shifting uncomfortably so I would go back the right position. Then, in several weeks, you became an even more active little boy. You would kick like football player, box like Manny Pacquiao and do karate chop like a seasoned karate kid. And yes, Mommy, often gets surprised and shout, “Ouch!” even at the middle of patient consultations. Yes, you are a strong boy and your excitement inside my belly hurts. Hehe, but its okay my baby, I still love you. Only a mother thinks those pains are adorable. It makes me happy and it tells me that you are well inside.

You started you get so big. By the last few months of my pregnancy, you often crave for chocolates. I have to control myself. I didn’t want you or me to have any complicated delivery because of too much intake of sweets. I said, “Please Naj, your next chocolates will be outside my womb.”

Then, we were set to go home to my and your dad’s hometown, the beautiful Iloilo City. We want you to be born in the City of Love because you are born out of love. You are planned and so wanted baby. The majority of the course of my pregnancy was a bit easy breezy except on a few lethargic sleepy episodes for two weeks during the early part. But the last few weeks of pregnancy was tricky. I had the worst rashes and swelling on the lower part of my body. It was excruciating and hard but let me tell you, baby, you are worth all the aches and pains and all the tiny little rashes that appeared in my body.

By 37 weeks, the whole family and our friends were all so excited to see you. I pray fervently every night. I asked the help of St. Gerard, patron of pregnant mothers. I talked to you every night. Your dad also prays every night for you and always ask that you will wait for him to come out when he arrives in Iloilo City because he was still in Singapore. I thought you would come out sooner but you were such an obedient little boy. You know when you came out? Exactly on the day when your father arrived in Iloilo.

When I started my labor, mommy didn’t feel much pain. My labor was progressing well and fast. I was imagining of seeing you already. But along the course of my labor, your heartbeat dropped to a dangerous level. The doctor have to open my belly up to get you out as soon as possible rather than the usual way where babies come out. It was scary for me because it is a major operation but I am willing to do anything for you. It took longer than usually for the operation to start. I prayed and prayed for your safety. You see, I don’t want to lose you. I rather die than not have you. Yes, baby, that is how much I love you. You see, your dad have always wanted you even before he and I met. He always wanted to have a firstborn son and he wants to call him, Naj, a mirror image of his name, Jan. I would like your dad to have you. There can be no one but you. We also gave you  another name, Raffaele, an Italian name meaning ” healed by God”. True to your name, you were indeed healed by God. After a stress-filled delivery, everyone in that operating room were all tensed and anxious, all hoping for things to go well. When you came out, you cried instantly and they all let out a sigh of relief, baby is okay. Yes, your breathing was too fast than usual and you are unable to be fed for days because you cannot tolerate feeding. But you are a fighter baby. You are our little warrior. At a young age, you made me admire your strength. Someday, when you grow up and you would doubt your ability to face adversity, I will remind of the day you are born. You fought your way to life like a confident warrior. Though you have to be administered antibiotics, inserted a tube into your mouth to your stomach to let out some bad fluids, given IV injections and have to stay in the hospital for 7 days, you looked so cool like one healthy baby.

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I cried because after giving birth to you, I haven’t seen or hold you for three days. On the day, I was able to hold you  and smell you, I was high on so much happiness. It is like meeting the love of my life. Come back to me when you experience your first love and I’ll tell you, multiple that 10x that is how I felt when I saw and hold you in my arms. I am amazed that you are barely 1 week old but you got the perfect latch when I tried to breastfed you. Though I could tell you got frustrated because I didn’t have milk. But I researched and did everything so milk will come in so I can nourish you naturally.

When we brought you home, you should see the joy in our eyes. Your dad held you like a precious gem. He hasn’t held you since you came out, you see. He wasn’t allowed yet. So imagine his happiness when he got to hold you for the first time. He is so proud of you.

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We love you so much Naj. We will do everything to give you a good future and guide you to become a man you are destined to be. We are not perfect but I hope our unconditional love for you can compensate that. My son, you are so worth it. I hope these words will resonate throughout the days of your life, don’t ever forget that and never allow other people to tell you that it isn’t so.

Love, Mommy

POULET: FRENCH DINING

There is something about the French that I like. My favourite movie is the cute French film Amelie; I always wanted to travel to Paris; In my trip to Australia, I discovered this lovely book written by a French lady Mireille Guillano : French Women Don’t Get Fat. But one thing I haven’t tried yet are their food….

In Singapore, there a lot of choices for French restaurants. I was looking for a casual-dining French restaurant without causing a big tear on your wallet. Poulet offers just that. My Singaporean doctor-friends tried out this restaurant in one of our midweek de-stressing sessions. And I took my hubby there a few months after to try it too. French cuisine are know for its rich tastes and thick creamy sauces. Poulet in French means chicken. So Poulet’s signature dish is their amazing roasted chicken.

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We ordered:

SAUTEED WILD MUSHROOMS

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This simple dish is surprisingly good. It has this intriguing yummy sauce that is just right. This is an appetiser but my friend prefer to take it as his main dish for the evening.

POULET ROTI

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This is Poulet’s signature dish. It comes in Half ($15.80) or Whole (28.80). But the half chicken can easily be shared by two. It is in good portion size.The chicken is brined in full day and placed in rotisserie for a slow roast. It comes with a thick flavourful mushroom chardonnay sauce. I wouldn’t wonder why this is Poulet’s star dish because it is definitely a hit to our tastebuds. My hubby and I, being a true-blooded Pinoys, wish they have a rice for side dish for use to fully enjoy this dish.

IBERICO PORK BELLY 

Iberico Pork Belly

This is a braised Spanish pork belly ($15.80). It comes with mashed potato, leek confit and double mustard. The pork was amazingly soft and tender. It almost melts in our mouths. The mustard sauce’s tanginess blends perfectly with the pork. Again, my hubby & I would say, ‘pls bring in the rice. burp!’

CHOCOLATE MOUSSE

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We wanted something sweet after the satisfying heavy meal. We ordered the chocolate mousse ($7.80). It comes in a cute glass container. This  is  velvety smooth rich dessert with real chocolate chips inside and whip cream on top. It is perfect ending to our perfect dinner.

We will definitely come back here if we would be craving for some French cuisine that is pocket-friendly and tummy-filling.

Poulet Restaurant
201 Victoria Street
Level 4 Bugis+, Singapore
Tel: +65 6509 9411
Daily: 11.30am – 9.30pm

 

ST. GERARD, PATRON & PROTECTOR OF EXPECTANT MOTHERS

I will be on my 39weeks of pregnancy by tomorrow. The waiting game makes me feel excited, anxious and a bit scared as a first timer. I did have few contractions last night but I talked to baby that maybe we can wait for his dad to arrive from Singapore in two days. Then, my contractions subsided.

I learned about this saint: St. Gerard Majella. He is the saint of expectant mothers. I learned more of his life, how he lived it and all miracles he performed. I am amazed of how he had lived his life for God and his mission to be a saint.

St. Gerard Majella

Every night I pray to God throughout his intercession. I will share with all the expectant mothers out there this prayer:

PRAYER TO ST. GERARD

Great Saint Gerard,

beloved servant of Jesus Christ,

perfect imitator of our meek & humble Savior,

and devoted child of the Mother of God,

enkindle within my heart one spark of that heavenly fire of charity

which glowed in you & made you a seraph of love.

O glorious Saint Gerard,

because like your Divine Master, 

you bore without murmur or complaint the calumniates of wicked men

when falsely accused of crime,

you have been raised up by God as patron & protector of expectant mothers.

Preserve me in the dangers of motherhood and shield the child I now bear,

that it may be brought safely to the light of day

and receive the sacrament of baptism.

Amen.

Hail Mary…. (3x) 

(Taken from Straight from the Heart: A Prayer Companion)

I also pray through the intercession of St. Raphael the Archangel and St. Josemaria Escriva as well as praying the rosary. Mama Mary, Jesus’ mother is the perfect mother to emulate.

Tomorrow is my next prenatal check up. Wish me luck! Praying for all preggy mommies out there too!

PUPPS: PREGNANCY SKIN RASH AND HOW TO MANAGE IT

 I am currently in my 38 weeks of pregnancy. On Saturday, I will be 39 weeks. I am hoping the day after that I will give birth na to my baby boy. My pregnancy was mostly an enjoyable, symptom-free except a very short stint of lethargy during my 6weeks to 8weeks pregnancy. However, I didn’t know that a bad bad pregnancy skin rash would visit and disturb my happy prepartum state in my third trimester. The skin rash is called PUPPS. It means Pruritic Urticarial Papules and Plaques of Pregnancy (that is  mouthful!). It is just not an ordinary skin rash that will itch a bit. Its itchiness is like a curse. You would like to scratch your skin off until it bleeds. Some say that it is something that you wouldn’t even wish your enemies to have. It is very unsightly too. Those who have suffered this horrible condition will really sympathise with you because she would know how difficult and bad it is. Even the most patient and tolerant person will complain of this rash. Here is a link if you are interested in how PUPPS look like: Images of PUPPS. It is not pretty picture. You have been warned.

PUPPS is a skin condition that is often affecting pregnant women who is carrying male babies. They say it is the male hormones of the baby interacting with the mommy. Good news though this condition will not have any dangerous effect on the baby or mommy (just  insane itchiness for mommy). Bad news is that the only cure is delivery of the baby. Some even had themselves induced to labor early because of this. I was afflicted by PUPPS in my 35 weeks of pregnancy but even just one day of it had me crying my eyes out. I couldn’t sleep, clothes that touches my skin makes it more itchy and painful,  scratching makes it worst and if I do scratch with fingers or any course object, I have to dig into my skin so hard it bleeds. I was left with bleeding, dry, coarse scabs and dark spots. The rash looks like hybrid of chicken pox, shingles and heat rash.

But I wouldn’t allow to make my last few weeks of pregnancy miserable. I researched and I even asked the help of my medical school classmate who is now a renown Doctor in Alternative Medicine in Iloilo City for her expert advice.

I found  out to how to manage this evil skin rash. So to those suffering from this condition, I hope these will help. But seek your OB-Gyne doctor’s consent and advice first before trying these out.

1. Upon waking up, I drink a glass of lukewarm water with squeezed lemon juice. This will cleanse your system.

2.I drink one glass of vegetable  juice twice a day, preferable the V8 juice. Unfortunately, I couldn’t find V8 juice here in Iloilo, I make do of vegetable juices in the supermart. Juicing or making smoothies can also be a good alternative.

3. I ordered online Grandpa’s Pine Tar Wonder Soap. It is sold in the United States but I was lucky to find an online seller in Manila. This is a miracle soap. A lot of PUPPS sufferer are raving about this soap. And they are right! I used with a good loofah sponge. You will smell like camp fire after bathing and your bathroom floor might have blackish tinge but it will relieve you of your rashes. Within 2 days, the rashes went flat and my skin became smoother. It also gradually lightened my dark spots from the rash.

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4. Bathe twice to thrice a day with cold or room temperature water. Avoid using very hot water which will only aggravate the condition.

5. Drink lots of water.

6. Take Dandelion Root capsules or drink Dandelion Root tea. This is best to consult your doctor first before trying this. Some take 3 capsules thrice a day. But I just took two capsules twice a day. If you are going to use tea, drink one cup 2x a day.

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7. Apply Virgin Coconut Oil allover skin. I always hated the smell of VCO or lana. But it was the only thing that helped me during the worst stage of my PUPPS.

8. Try not to scratch. Ok, I didn’t follow this but if you can, don’t because your skin will be spared from ugly dark spots of extreme scratching. Believe me, not my skin have so many dots, my niece would say she can connect the dots. I even apply concealer or foundation on my skin because I am embarrassed of how it looks.

Here are some things that may help. SomeI tried but didn’t work for me but worked for some. Some I haven’t really tried but people attest that it works for them:

1. Apply cold compress on the rashes when its itchy.

2. Use antihistamines. Check with your doctor what is safe for you to use.

3. Use steroid creams or tablets. Check with your doctor what is safe for you to use.

4. Apply Calamine lotion on rash.

5. Drink Nettle Leaf Tea or take  nettle leaf capsules.

6. Bathe with Epsom Salts.

7. Use oatmeal soap and lotion.

I am happy to say after 1-2 weeks, my rashes got better. I still have itchiness here and there, mostly probably from the stretch marks and dry skin of pregnancy. But the PUPPS never came back, thank God.  I do hope that no one will experience PUPPS. It was an excruciating experience. Before trying any of this, please consult your doctor.

I can’t wait to see my little boy soon. I do hope it will be this week. Happy pregnancy to preggy mommies out there!

BOOK REVIEW: THE EXPATS

 

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I was looking for an action suspense novel. I found this, The Expats by Chris Pavone, among the recommended novels in Kinokuniya Bookstore. Initially, I thought I am reading a novel version of 1993′s Point of No Return movie starred by Bridget Fonda. This is story of a female undercover CIA, Kate Moore hoping to live a normal life. The backdrop of the novel was interesting. It was set in a lot of places in Europe when the protagonist’s husband was offered a lucrative job in Luxembourg. Kate gave up her interesting secret life to a ‘boring’ life of being an expat mother and wife. Or so she thinks. She seem to be haunted by her old life as she met a suspicious couple that might not be who they say they are. She delved into more investigations and putting clues together to uncover something that may involve a crime, money laundering or maybe her husband.

The book tends to be a bit overly descriptive and there are parts that gets too dragging. Chris Pavone has created initially an interesting puzzle but later turned into a crazy web of confusion for the readers. The suspense was good but too messy to follow. You will get so confused who really is the bad guy. Even as the novel ends, you will still get another twist to this overly-twisted spy book. This is a good attempt for the Chris Pavone’s first novel but I will be sticking to Patricia Cornwell for now.

THE LEGAL WIFE

It has been more than a week since the TV series that made the whole Philippines (and some parts of the world) where Filipinos stopped whatever there were doing and got transfixed unto their TV sets to cry, wince, get pissed and hurl strong reactions through social media had finally ended. The Legal Wife was a nation-wide success. When it is on, Facebook and Twitter would be flooded with violent and colourful reactions about the series. You could tell that ‘The Legal Wife’ made an incredible impact on the viewers. It was relatable and it showed an issue that people can in one way or another identify. It was also effective because fine actors like Angel Locsin, Jericho Rosales and Maja Salvador did justice to their roles.

I didn’t really watch every episodes neither did I see the ending. I just asked my sister-in-law to tell me how it ended. I only watched a few episodes after getting curious of the status updates I see regarding the show that is flooding my Facebook timeline.

Here is my take regarding The Legal Wife and infidelity. Here it goes:

Call me coward. Call me crazy. Call me strong. Call me lazy. But I have never fought for love. Even how much I deeply love a guy, I have not been a crusader of the against-all-odds love nor do I tolerate infidelity. I can take a lot of things and my patience is admirably long but if third party is involved or my parents would upfront tell me, “I don’t want him for you”, I would give up the relationship with heavy heart but I would. But for the record, my parents had never dictated me to end a relationship. But yes, I have been cheated on before.

During advertisement breaks between a The Legal Wife episode, there would be celebrities that would give their own comments and reactions regarding the series. Daphne Osena-Paez commented echoes my same sentiments. If you cheat, I leave. I believe that we are empowered women and we can survive without being attached to our man. If you are earning well, takes good care of your appearance and confident in your abilities, I don’t see why you couldn’t function without your man.

But you say, how about the kids? I believe that it is not healthy to be in a household with both parents not being in a harmonious state. It is best to explain the situation to your children why you need to part ways and to make them understand that it was never their fault. If being in separate houses too traumatising for your young kid, you can still stay in the same household until the time your kid(s) can understand why you need to be living separately. But it is important that since you made this rule, make sure you are both just partners in child-rearing. No temporary lapses of weakness by allowing occasional hooking up with each other to appease moments of “hormonal” needs. If you can’t stick to this and better not make this arrangement.

As Kris Aquino said (I can’t believe I am getting love advices from her), ‘When a relationship is broken, better leave it rather than picking up the pieces which can only get you more cuts and getting hurt in the process’.

There is no need to be ashamed that you will be husbandless and people will talk. I rather people will talk than stay in a relationship which makes me a fool and eventually lowers my self-esteem for tolerating being cheated on. Pining for a person who prefers to canoodle with another woman than his legal wife doesn’t deserve to be chased. He has made his choice and I will make mine. Though it may require buckets of tears, occasional screaming when I am alone and a metal-hard strong will to walk away, I will do it for myself, my sanity, my kids and our future. This will allow me to me to be open for a better person to come along and love me how I truly deserve. If Monica (the legal wife) finds that reconciliation with Adrian (the cheating husband) is not possible, there is always Max. Plus in my opinion, Max is more of my type than Adrian, teehee….

But if you are a bit of a vengeful legal wife, you can also get separated without being annulled especially if your husband is loaded (translation: rich). You see, even if you are separated but you haven’t gotten the annulment, you are still entitled to get a portion in his will. This is one revenge you can do to the mistress and she & your husband will never get a chance to get married. Look at Gretchen Baretto. But if I were, if you don’t want anything to do with your husband, cut the strings. Be gone and live a stress-free life. Revenge is a waste of energy.

Did I like the ending of The Legal Wife? Yes I do. The ending is for intelligent audience similar to the ending of “Before Sunset”. It allows audience to make their own ending depending on their views. Yes, there can be a possibility of reconciliation but it was shown that the legal wife became a stronger wife.

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But let us step back a bit. Before you wave the flag of being an Gabriela Silang of Cheated Legal Wife, examine yourself first why your husband cheated. Sometimes there are reasons why they do what they do. So do your part as good wife first before playing the ‘victim’. Though I may not be the most qualified person to give advice since I have only been married, happily at that, for 1 year and I never had infidelity issues with my husband, just hear out some of my unsolicited advices in the hopes of keeping your husband. I will however put a disclaimer on this that following these might not guarantee you keeping your husband from cheating nor would I predict if I can keep my husband faithful forever (but then again, that is his loss, teehee.)

1. DON’T NAG

Men hate noises. Nagging to men is like a cat scratching a piece of wood. It is irritating and annoying. This is one trait men cannot tolerate and prefers to be in a company of a less-annoying woman.

2. BEAUTIFY YOURSELF

Men say that women are unfair. They wooed and chased you before and when they finally got you, you stopped trying to be physically attracted. They felt cheated like you put on a show. Aggh men! You see, men are visual creatures. They are attracted to beautiful and shapely women. Yes, we can counteract by saying we have sacrifice our bodies to bear you kids on top of doing most of the domestic chores. Believe me, your wailings will be not heard of. Beautifying yourself doesn’t necessarily mean you to maintain the 24inch waist line of your college years. With the struggle of weightloss after childbirth and slowing of metabolism, we can have an achievable 27 inch waistline or still manage to try to wear flattering clothes. We should try to avoid frumpy clothes, still look presentable and spritz perfume. What is important is that you still try to look good. Looking good makes you feel good. And It is best that you do this for yourself so you’ll feel more confident as suppose to doing it solely to keep your husband. Incorporate exercise in your lifestyle. It releases hormones to make you happy. And a happy wife is always a nice person to come home to.

3. HAVE YOUR OWN HOBBIES/FRIENDS/INTERESTS

Did you remember when your husband was still crushing heavily on you before he made a move to ask you out? From a distance, besides being attracted to you physically, some men like you because you were passion about something or you were very good at something. You were a star athlete or you were immensely enjoying the book you were reading or you were a compassionate crusader of stray dogs. You have your own life. Your hubby used to see you laugh heartily with your own friend over a cup of lattes. And what attracted him the most was your carefree laugh. But now all your interest and your life revolves in only him. A man wants a woman who has her own identify, who knows what she wants and she is. This is an admirable character. Men likes to learn from you and your world that make you intriguing.

4. BE CONFIDENT

This is similar to number 3. Confidence exudes sexiness. A mediocre-looking woman with confidence is more attractive than a pretty lady with self-esteem issues. You lit up and glow if you are radiating confidence. And a man knows that if you are a confident woman, you know your worth and you can walk away anytime once you think you are not being treated as you should be treatd.

5. TREAT HIM LIKE A KING

You might think this is counterproductive of being a sassy independent woman. You see, men (sorry to say this, guys) have big but sensitive egos. They want to be the leader and king of their home. They will find it demeaning to be “under the say” to their wives. And I believe as women we shouldn’t be too caught up of proving ourselves to the world that we burn our aprons and recipes book to the ground. I like the ladylike aspect of being domesticated to cooking for my husband and keeping our home tidy. If we go biblical with this, it is specially our roles as wives to submit to the leadership of our husband. I don’t see anything wrong with that. But also make sure you are not being abused to being a slave and there should be a good share of division of housework too. This doesn’t mean you have to do ALL the housework at home. Make your husband the king of your home because he will treat you like a queen. And being a queen is much fun (and powerful too) than being a king hehe.

6. TELL HIM STRAIGHT

One of the complaints of men towards women is that we never tell them what we really want. We assume that they can read between our sulky moods, our “no” which means “yes”, our silent treatment and unexplained crying. Men are simple creatures. They don’t like to guess. Tell them straight what you want, what you need from them and what you really feel. Don’t say I don’t want flowers on Valentine day but get sulky when he didn’t bring home any flowers and expect him to just know that you actually want flowers. Tell him that you get pissed when he spoke to you like that. Tell him that his closeness to his flirty officemate is making you jealous. It simplifies & clarifies things and makes life much drama-free.

7. TRUST

Shows like The Legal Wife and movies like The Mistresses or No Other Woman does create paranoia among women. It is very hard to trust men nows days. Everywhere you see women much sexier and prettier than you. It is tempting to do regular checks on your husband’s email, phones or social media account to make sure there is no “Nicole” in the picture. But then I realise this is giving you something to worry when you don’t need to be. Its like looking for something you don’t want to look for. Though, in my previous relationship, I found out through this. I realised that hounding on your partner’s emails or facebook account just would bring you more anxiety than good. Just trust. Plus a woman’s instinct is better than her detective skills. If he is a cheater, you will eventually find out.

8. BE A GOOD MOTHER

You maybe following all the advices mentioned but if you don’t know how to take good care of your children, this can be a big turn-off. Husbands  couldn’t help feeling more loving towards you when they see you being a good and nurturing mother to his children. I have seen men who gets upset and disappointment when their wives rely on the nannies to do all the caring and mommy-stuff towards the kids.

9. BE HAPPY

Have you heard the saying: ‘Happy Wife, Happy Life’. It is nice to go home to and be with someone who is cheerful in life. No one likes the company of a depressed, sulky complainer. A happy person is the best companion in life. Greeting your husband with a smile when he gets home makes him enthusiastic to go home after a tiring day at work. He would envision a life full of laughter and fun with your kids. Why would he look for another woman when he is satisfied with his life, right?

10. PRAY

Always pray, pray, pray. We cannot do anything with God’s guidance and blessing. Pray for your marriage and family life. Prayer can move mountains. Pray that your love will endure the test of times.

Like I said, these tips are not guarantees that your hubbies won’t cheat. There are men who are too weak to fight temptation ( like say a Solenn Huessaff-look-alike seducing them), men who is in a midlife crisis, men who wants validation that they are still desirable, men who want to see if he can get away with it, men who got bored & wants a bit of fun, men who fell out of love with his wife & fell in love with someone new and men got drunk & allowed alcohol to dictate his actions. Though for me, these are not justifiable reasons.

My motto: Fool me once then its goodbye…

Stay strong, Legal Wives! We got the upper hand on this. And to all Nicoles in the world, go see a shrink and resolve all your insecurity issues. ‘Yon lang…