GONE GIRL AND THE COOL GIRL

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taken from www.screenrant.com

“Men always say that as the defining compliment, don’t they? She’s a cool girl. Being the Cool Girl means I am a hot, brilliant, funny woman who adores football, poker, dirty jokes, and burping, who plays video games, drinks cheap beer, loves threesomes and anal sex, and jams hot dogs and hamburgers into her mouth like she’s hosting the world’s biggest culinary gang bang while somehow maintaining a size 2, because Cool Girls are above all hot. Hot and understanding. Cool Girls never get angry; they only smile in a chagrined, loving manner and let their men do whatever they want. Go ahead, shit on me, I don’t mind, I’m the Cool Girl.

Men actually think this girl exists. Maybe they’re fooled because so many women are willing to pretend to be this girl. For a long time Cool Girl offended me. I used to see men – friends, coworkers, strangers – giddy over these awful pretender women, and I’d want to sit these men down and calmly say: You are not dating a woman, you are dating a woman who has watched too many movies written by socially awkward men who’d like to believe that this kind of woman exists and might kiss them. I’d want to grab the poor guy by his lapels or messenger bag and say: The bitch doesn’t really love chili dogs that much – no one loves chili dogs that much! And the Cool Girls are even more pathetic: They’re not even pretending to be the woman they want to be, they’re pretending to be the woman a man wants them to be. Oh, and if you’re not a Cool Girl, I beg you not to believe that your man doesn’t want the Cool Girl. It may be a slightly different version – maybe he’s a vegetarian, so Cool Girl loves seitan and is great with dogs; or maybe he’s a hipster artist, so Cool Girl is a tattooed, bespectacled nerd who loves comics. There are variations to the window dressing, but believe me, he wants Cool Girl, who is basically the girl who likes every fucking thing he likes and doesn’t ever complain. (How do you know you’re not Cool Girl? Because he says things like: “I like strong women.” If he says that to you, he will at some point fuck someone else. Because “I like strong women” is code for “I hate strong women.”

― Gillian Flynn, Gone Girl

I managed to catch the movie version of the book Gone Girl by Gillian Flynn. Initially, there was a rumour that Reese Witherspoon will be playing the role of Gone Girl Amy Dunne but it turned out she was become the producer of the movie. Rosamund Pike was perfect as the icy “perfect” blonde wife. Ben Affleck as the Nick Dunne, the husband was a good choice too but I can also imagine Ed Burns for the role. Carrie Coon as the Nick’s sister Margo, Kim Dickens & Patrick Fugit as the two detectives and Tyler Perry as Nick’s Attorney, all added color to this spell-binding movie. Neil Patrick Harris was convincing as the Amy’s obsessed old boyfriend. Most people know that Neil Patrick Harris is openly and happily gay so I don’t know how people would react to his bedroom scene with  Rosamund Pike.(Opps… Spoiler! Too late.) Gillian Flynn did the screenplay so there wasn’t a big diversion from the book.  David Fincher did the book justice by telling the story in how it should be. He masterfully manoeuvred the challenging plot beautifully. Watching this film is very reminiscent of the how Alfred Hitchcock would make films in the olden days with a similarly looking blond girl, Grace Kelly.  What do I think of the film? I think it was superb!

So now that I have made my mini-review of the film, let us dissect this quote about the cool girl by Amy Dunne. I can’t believe that I am agreeing with psychopath Amy (Opps… Sorry! Spoiler again) that men loves the cool girl or sometimes they call her the Manic Pixie Dream Girl (referring from Kirsten Dunst’s character in Elizabethtown). But I am sorry I have to break it to you guys, the cool girl is an illusion. Most writer-directors  (I am talking to you, Farrelly Brothers!) created this type of unrealistic woman who men hopes they will find. A woman who can hang with the boys, talk about sports, drink real beer but still look smoking hot & doesn’t gain a pound. A woman who doesn’t complain, only have sex to please her partner, doesn’t have a smidgen of makeup but still stunning and is kind & adopts stray dogs. You will have a lot of reference for this type of woman: Cameron Diaz in Something About Mary, Natalie Portman in Garden State, Kate Hudson in How To Lose A Guy in 10 Days, Zooey Deschanel in 500 Days of Summer or media-enhanced promotion of the real Jennifer Lawrence. Yes, there are really women who likes beer, who loves sport and naturally pretty. But here are the flaws of exalting the cool girl archetype.First of all, it is a very unrealistic goal set for women to be all that. Honestly, boys, if you want us to eat all that burger and drink all that beer with you, we will get fat. Men gets irritated with women who eats only salad but also wants a girlfriend with flat tummy & toned butt. Men says they want the natural- looking ladies without a ton of make-up. I have to tell you, guys, that natural-looking face that you admire so is a skilful artistry of perfectly blended foundation, concealer, a natural-looking blush, a near-to-same-shade-of-lip lipstick with added highlighting for that “natural” healthy gleam. Some women now would fake liking watching sport games when she rather watch romantic-comedies with a big pint of ice cream. The mythical cool girl always puts his man needs in their home, careers, kitchen and bedroom first and forgetting her own. She is okay to be the mean-time girl because she is too cool to want marriage or kids anyway. She doesn’t need the cuddle at night or needs affirmations of “I love you’. The cool girl is a unicorn in men’s wet dreams that women struggling to achieve. The problem with glorifying  this type of archetype is that men thinks it’s real and that women forgets her femininity. Or more so, women rejects her femininity. I believe the real Gone Girl is the Feminine Girl in every women. Women now are ashamed to be too girly and fragile-looking but we didn’t realise that is where our strength lies. I am all for loving pink, being soft, being emotional and wanting to be loved. Now women are afraid to be real women. If  there is something we can take from this movie as women is that we shouldn’t allow facade to take over your life. So instead of Gone Girl, we can just say Go Girl! (I am being so corny and such a girl.)

THINGS THAT INSPIRED ME THIS WEEK

It will be Christmas next week… I am so excited! I got better from last week’s bug and back to blogging for this week’s inspiration. We got a Christmas tree in our condo. It is still missing some Christmas balls and ornaments.

christmas tree

Here are a round-up of links I found online this week that you might enjoy too:

I love people who being true to themselves

A rags-to-riches story to inspire people

Why we should have our kids get vaccinated

I am blessed that my Naj is exhibiting traits of being strong-willed.

Don’t you know, we might be actually bullying our babies

One of the sweetest subtle proposal I saw.

You might be sabotaging your marriage

Who is excited to see the movie base from the French novel The LITTLE PRINCE.

 

This made me laugh so hard… Babies are adorably funny.

Life lessons to excel in your 30s

This guy is funny. Will this work in Singapore and the Philippines without people getting pissed off?

What your airplane seat says about you.

Never judge how a mother chooses to raise her kids

How to find the work you will love

Advance Merry Christmas to you all!!

 

BOOK REVIEW: BALLET BEAUTIFUL

Arabesque…  Demi Plie… Grand jete… Port de bras… I have always love ballet. My mother enrolled me in ballet class when I was in kindergarten but I didn’t manage to continue my classes during my elementary years. But my fascination to this art of dance never faded. It is poetry in liquid motion. So when I was in college and in medical school, I enrolled in ballet classes. I even get to have a ballet recital with 5-year-old girls, hahaha.

Now in my 30s, with a 5-months old baby and 5-kg shy away from my ideal weight, ballet may be a solution to my postpartum weight goal. I discovered this amazing book by Mary Helen Bowers: Ballet Beautiful. Mary Helen Bowers is responsible in helping Natalie Portman achieve her ballerina body in the movie “Black Swan”. In fact, Natalie Portman wrote the foreword of the book.

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 https://www.balletbeautiful.com

Ballet Beautiful is a fitness and lifestyle programme designed by Mary Helen Bowers to help every women  achieve a ballerina body using ballet techniques. Bowers discovered Ballet Beautiful when she temporarily stopped from dancing ballet professionally to study in a university. She managed to stay healthy, svelte and still graceful by practicing Ballet Beautiful. She formulated a work-out using ballet principles that can sculpt the body to be more toned, fit and lean. Do you know that this is one of Victoria Secret models favourite work-out?

There are two ways of doing it. You can do the 60-minutes Classic Ballet Beautiful Work-out or the 15-minutes Ballet Beautiful Blasts spread out throughout the day. This is not only for ballerinas or dancers but for every women. However, if you have a background on ballet, it would be very helpful. It is very hard to follow the work-out instructions though the book. You would b tempted to go to their website and just purchase a class instead.

The book is divide in three parts: How Ballet Beautiful Came About, The Ballet Beautiful Workout, and The Ballet Beautiful Lifestyle. Part 3 has a chapter on diet which is entitled ‘Dieting Is A Waste of Time’. It introduced the readers on five Ballet Beautiful Eating Principles.

1. Be prepared

2. Eat often

3. Substitute for satisfaction

4. Be flexible

5. Forgive yourself and move on

I have yet to try this Ballet Beautiful work-out and tips consistently. It is hard to do a grand jete with a baby attached to me. Soon…. Au Revoir!

IKEA TRIP

When I was young, my father used to bring home IKEA magazines often. I would dream of sleeping in those kiddie bunk beds in those perfectly decorated bedrooms.

We live a few bus stops from an Ikea branch here in Singapore. We wanted to take my husband’s mom for a little window shopping for household things there.

I love that they have so many cute, affordable and functional stuff. You can just get lost in their model rooms or browse around their hallways or go grocery shopping.

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ikeaParents can also leave their kids here to play while they shop.

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But truth be told, one of the main things I go to Ikea is to eat. Yes, to eat, haha. I love their meatballs! You can buy it uncooked at their grocery section. The food court is always packed. I love that it is cafeteria style that reminds me of my memories in Saudi Aramco. These are what we ordered:

ikea meatballs

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Ikea is a one-stop shop for domestic divas, foodies and playful kids. I love coming back to Ikea over and over again.

IKEA

60 Tampines North Drive 2, Singapore 528764

Tel: 6786 6868 Fax: 6786 6888

THINGS THAT INSPIRED ME THIS WEEK

Holiday spirit is definitely here. I could hear Christmas songs blasting on the speakers of malls and supermarkets. We already have a white Christmas tree at our unit, thanks to our housemate, who manage to ask for the old Christmas tree in their workplace. We are in the process of decorating it. We got the lights and the stencilled boa-ish thing ( don’t what you call it), haha.

Midweek, my family and I manage to get a quick visit in Orchard to do some errands. We got to see the bright lights display from different malls and see different Christmas trees.

christmas tree

Here are a round-up of links I found online this week that you might enjoy too:

What age difference in marriage has a best chance in surviving

10 ways to get exercise without trying

Finding love today through an act of generosity done 14 years ago

Mindfulness as a treatment for depression

How to make a hot nutella chocolate drink

How to keep shoes smelling sweet

Taking perfect pictures using your phone

Science take on being 30

Trying this Dried Citrus Ornaments for our Christmas tree

This song brings chills to my spine

Love isn’t enough

I admire this man so much

Why Mr. Big cheated on Natasha with Carrie Bradshaw

What is the color of year 2015

Why we should value those who truly love us before its too late

Leaving you with this cute couple who sang the top hits of 2014 in 2.5 minutes. They are adorable.

Enjoy the rest of your weekend. My family and I are heading to a happy place. Yes, Universal Studios, baby… Ciao bellas!

5 ITEMS IN MY CHRISTMAS WISHLIST

Oh December is here and it’s time to pull out my paper and pen to write Santa, haha… Since my Naj would only want booby milk for Christmas & even New Year and nothing more, allow the mommy to write Mr. Clause to grant me my Christmas wish (es), hehe..

Dear Santa,

Hello! How  are you there in North Pole? I hope it is not too cold out there. I have been a good girl this year, I hope you noticed. You must be busy doing an inventory on what to give to all the good girls & boys this year. So I will make it easy for you and your hardworking elves by presenting to you what I want for Christmas. I gave you the option of picking from the 5 in the list or if you think I deserve all the five gifts, even better, hehe.. Here goes:

1. MICHAEL KORS SELMA SATCHEL BAG

michael kors selma bag

www.michaelkors.com

I been eyeing this baby for so much. I prefer in color pink. I am loving pink recently. It will be perfect bag to use when I go to work.

2. FUJIFILM INSTAX CAMERA

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www.fujifilm.com

I am trying to preserve memories by making a scrapbook. Having a camera that prints out picture in an instant is just what I need. It will be useful especially when we document our trips. We are hoping to do a lot of traveling next year.

3. PINK FOOD PROCESSOR

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www.kitforkitchens.com

Still in my pink daze, this kitchen helper would be valuable in some of the dishes I hope to make. Also my son is turning 6months old soon, I would like to make him some veggie and fruit baby food using a food processor.

4. SILVER SWEATER

silver sweater

www.hm.com

I used to find sweater unflattering but I take that back. I been hoping to get a nice cool sweater like this for this cold season.

5. THE DAY DESIGNER PLANNER

the day designer planner

www.daydesigner.com

Planning makes me happy and keeps me organized. Nothing makes me beam with pride when I tick the box of to-do lists for the day, so picking the perfect planner is crucial to my productivity.

I hope this list isn’t too much for you. I am really in the “nice” list, right? Regards to Mrs. Clause.

Inspired Always,

Little Miss Honey

FOOD DISCOVERIES: NANDO’S

My husband would often carve for Mang Inasal. It would be nice to have a Mang Inasal franchise here in Singapore. (Mang Inasal, please come to Singapore). We been searching for a perfectly grilled chicken here in Singapore and it’s hard to pass my husband’s taste buds. (Believe me, my husband’s taste buds can’t easily be pleased, haha!) Until we found Nando’s.

Nando’s serves peri-peri flamed-grilled chicken. Peri-Peri means ‘hot sauce made of red-hot chilli pepper’. This type of sauce/marinade originated in Portugal but can also be found in South Africa. Actually Peri-peri is a Swahili word meaning ‘pepper pepper’. Nando’s is known for its spicy grilled chicken. That is just perfect for my husband who has been searching for some grilled chicken and he loves spicy too.

Nando’s has its Peri-ometer of hotness:

LEMON & HERB- for beginners or the who like lots of flavors but not too much heat

MILD PERI-PERI- a litte warmer- perfect for those looking for more adventure

HOT PERI-PERI- if you really want to spice things up

EXTRA HOT PERI-PERI- evoke tears of joy with our flavour for serious chili lovers!

Since I am a like bit chicken (no pun intended, haha), I decided for us to get the Mild Peri-Peri. We got the Full Platter to Share ($43.00) which consist of whole chicken, sliced and 2 large or 4 regular side dishes. As a typical Pinoy, a meal is never be complete without a rice. So we got 2 large rice. But I have to tell you, one serving of rice in Nando’s is way too small for a typical rice eater, really. We came with my brother-in-law so the platter was enough for sharing.

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A Close Up

We love Nando’s chicken. It is succulent and flavourful. It was tender and not bloody or greasy. The whole chicken was enough to make us so full especially since we ordered bottomless iced teas too.

There are several sauces to choose from to go with our chicken. It is packaged nicely in long rectangular-shaped bottles.

Nando's I prefer these sauces with my chicken.

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Garlic & Tomato Sauce

Let us talk about the interiors of Nando’s. I love the brown tone all over the restaurant and  the contrast of the yellow lighting. I like the writings on the walls which tells the story about the origins of peri-peri chicken.

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 I must say, me, my hubby and my brother-in-law were peri-peri satisfied, hehe…..

Nando’s

Unit #01-46, Tampines Mall, 4,
Tampines Central 5,
529510
Singapore
6789 5052

THINGS THAT INSPIRED ME THIS WEEK

This week, my little one turned 5! How time flies. He is growing taller and heavier everyday. He seem to learn more and more tricks. It is so exciting to watch. Naj now can roll over, stands & sits with support and can even do high-fives when prompted. He gets cheekier and cheekier everyday. He babbles a  lot, smiles to us when he sees us and squeals in delight. He is such a precious gift to us.

I realize here in Singapore, it’s not really a tradition to celebrate the ‘birthday’ of a baby monthly until age 1 unlike back home in the Philippines. But I guess it is also  a good excuse to eat some cake, hehe…

5 months old celebration

Naj’s cake, by the way, is Coffee Peanut flavor and its yum.

We are blessed to have housemates who get freebies from their workplace. And their freebies get to be passed on to us, hehe. Our housemate gave me a green nail polish. I am not really a nail-polish-kind-of girl but I love green! Now I am using it on my toenails.

Maybelline nail polish

Speaking of colors, besides green, I am also gravitating more into pink. I seem to be loving lots of girly colors and pink things now just like this Victoria’s Secret wallet.

Victoria Secret pink wallet

Here are a round-up of links I found online this week that you might enjoy too:

There are two basic traits for lasting relationships

Reactions of celebrities when they read mean tweets about themselves

Beyonce’s new music video was inspired from Gab Valenciano’s Super Selfie video

Why successful people wear the same thing every day?

What happens if you don’t make any garbage in two years?

An algorithm that tell what makes a good tweet

Why there is  a good reason for your husband or boyfriends to grow a moustache?

Cute animation that illustrates the horror of addiction

Things people say to balikbayans

So adorably cute

Real love is a choice

So funny. This how we look with our phones

It is December tomorrow. Wow, time really does fly! Hope to feel the festive season ahead! Have a great weekend!

5 FAVORITE SAM SMITH SONGS

Hi friends!

How’s your weekend so far? I am currently loving Sam Smith music. This English singer-songwriter is often compared to Adele and some say, he is the “New Adele’. But I believe both artist are unique and awesome in their own way.

My hubby and I are a fan of his music. I just realized quite late that my hubby’s alarm music is the song “LATCH” by Disclosure featuring Sam Smith.

Here is 5 of my favourite Sam Smith songs for a relaxing weekend listening:

“I AM NOT THE ONLY ONE”

“STAY WITH ME”

 

LATCH (ACOUTIC)

RESTART

LEAVE YOUR LOVER

Hope you all have a great weekend!

THE BARK CAFE

I mentioned that I celebrated my birthday at a restaurant in the East that is quietly hidden from the busy streets of Singapore. The Bark Cafe offers an outdoor fusion dining experience. The place looks cozy and relaxing. I saw the place was slowly getting packed by people coming in from work. It was the perfect place to unwind with its abundant greenery and open air setting. It is nearby the Changi Prison Chapel and Museum. Too bad the museum was already when we arrived. It closes at 4:30PM. Maybe next time.


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It was a small quiet dinner with hubby, Naj, my mother-in-law and I invited my friend, her hubby and her hubby’s sister. They also have a baby in tow like us. Naj and my friend’s baby are born two months apart.

Here is what we ordered:

CHICKEN WINGS

chicken wings bark cafe This is one of their speciality. It is actually really good. You can get it 6pcs ($15.90) or 3pcs ($8.90). The waitress was nice enough to suggest that they will slice the wings into two to have more to share. It was crispy but not oily. No special sauces needed.

EL PASO CHICKEN FAJITAS
fajitas the bark cafe

 These fajitas ($17.90) are another crowd-pleaser. It comes in three pieces with a salad on the side. It’s a 10-inch tortilla with black pepper filling, mozzarella and capsicum. It is served with mixed greens and fries.

 

THE BARK PIZZA

beef pizza the bark cafe Another bestseller of the cafe is the Bark Pizza. ($19.90). They have it in beef and chicken. This one is the beef pizza. We also ordered the chicken pizza but I failed to take a picture of it. Both are equally good but I prefer the chicken.

 

SEAFOOD AGLIO E OLIO

pasta the bark cafe This pasta ($19.90) contains scallops, mussels, squid and shrimps. This was a bit spicy for me even if the waitress said this one is less spicy than the tomato-based spaghetti they have.  I apologized for the blurry pictures. I need learn to take better pictures. If you any photography workshop coming us soon, let me know ok?

TAGLIATELLE AL RADIACCHIO

pasta the bark cafe

In plain English this means creamy bacon spaghetti. I haven’t tasted this pasta ( (S18.90) because I was already too full from all the other dishes. But my mother-in-law and hubby said it was really good. Sorry again for the blurry pictures. (I am using a Sony Nex 5T by the way. So anyone who uses the same camera, I hope you ca give me pointers.)

I got German beer for the men. My hubby said it is still not as strong as the Philippine beer. I guess no beer kicks as strong as Red Horse.

beer the bark cafe

It was a fun and peaceful birthday celebration. It was nice to see that before my friend Mel and I were just carrying big bags in our travels, now we are carrying our babies, haha. We bonded during family medicine residency, went almost at the same time to Singapore to work and now we both happy wives and mothers. From stethoscopes to diapers…

bark cafe

The Bark Cafe is a hidden gem in the East which we will definitely come back to. Its walking distance from our place that if we are craving for pizza we know where we will go.

The Bark Cafe

1000 Upp Changi Road North
Singapore 507707